How Much Should a Guest Spend on a Wedding Gift?

How Much Should a Guest Spend on a Wedding Gift?

I often get asked how much a guest should spend on a wedding gift. The general guideline is that you give a gift in the amount that you think the couple is spending on you as a guest at their wedding.

Now, the problem with this is, how can you possibly determine what your seat at the wedding costs? Is it the cost of the food only? Do you total what you think they’re spending on everything — food, flowers, stationery, music and favors — and then divide by the number of guests? Or do you just give them exactly what they gave you when you got married five years ago, when they were unemployed and right out of college?

Unless you can afford to give the happy couple a check for a significant amount of money — say, $100 or more — stick to the registry. You can always give someone a gift worth $50 or less, but you don’t want to write a check for $25 from you and your date.

While many brides and grooms may say that they’d prefer cash or a check as a wedding gift, a gift from the wedding registry is perfectly acceptable. That’s why a registry is created — to help guests shop for wedding gifts.