Everyone knows that weddings are all about the bride. (Though this question is somewhat up for debate, no one denies that this is the norm.) So when the bride is your little girl, what role do you have?
The main players in the wedding planning will probably be the bride, the bride’s mom, and the bride’s best friend, but dads have a part, too. This part is less defined by tradition, so you probably don’t have a clue what’s expected of you. Here’s a short list, with suggestions provided by Groomgroove:
- Help with the planning: Yes, really. You’re probably paying for most of this thing, anyway, so you do have a say. Your daughter won’t necessarily take all your advice, but she will appreciate your involvement.
- Help with honeymoon planning: Stay out of the specifics, please, but if your daughter and her husband have never vacationed on their own, they might need help finding the best deals and forming a travel budget.
- Give toasts: You’re supposed to give a toast to the groom at the rehearsal dinner, and then a welcome speech at the reception.
- Participate in the traditions: It’s your job to walk your daughter down the aisle, and to dance a father-daughter dance with her at the reception. Also stand with your daughter in the receiving line.
- Be a good host: You and the bride’s mother are the official hosts of the reception (assuming you pay for it). Greet all the guests, be social, and stay until the very end.
Not all weddings will stick to the standard traditions, so you may be off the hook in some of these cases. The most important thing is that you support your daughter and offer help wherever she may need it (but don’t spoil her into becoming a bridezilla, please!).
Lisa is a special needs teacher and a hugger. She always makes time for everyone and lightens up everybody’s lives with her presence. When she is not chasing her students around the yard, she finds time to write about what she truly loves, and you guessed it, its people and relationships.