Married Now What to Do with Your Engagement Ring?

Married: Now What to Do with Your Engagement Ring?

For months (and sometimes years), you coveted the sparkly ring in the magazine. Your heart leapt when you felt the engagement ring finally slip around your finger. You showed it off to every relative, friend, and minor acquaintance with a smile of pure bliss. But now that you’ve said your wedding vows, what do you do with the rock? Here are a few schools of thought:

Wear Both Rings on the Same Finger

Traditionally, the bride wears her engagement ring on her right ring finger for her wedding ceremony. That way, when the wedding rings are exchanged, her left ring finger is bare and ready for her wedding ring. After the ceremony, she puts the engagement ring back onto her left ring finger. Poetically, wearing the engagement ring on the outside of the wedding ring keeps the symbol of marriage closest to the heart.

Wear Your Engagement Ring on Your Right Hand

If wearing two rings on the same finger seems too bulky for you, but you don’t want to give up wearing the most expensive ring you own, you can wear your engagement ring on your right hand. With the wedding band on your left ring finger, no one will mistake the engagement band for anything other than the sparkling symbol it is. Plus, wearing a ring on each ring finger makes it even easier for people to tell at a glance (if they have a little trouble with mirror images, that is) that you’re unmistakably married.

Wear a Fake Engagement Ring

Believe it or not, some women choose to wear fake versions of their engagement rings. This isn’t as silly as it seems at first, since it allows the wearer to go out on the town wearing big bling without worrying about losing or damaging it. A fake ring can also aid in personal safety, since the wearer can throw it at a mugger and run the other way. Meanwhile, the real ring sits safely in a vault at home and is worn only for very special occasions.

Wear the Engagement Ring as Other Jewelry

Let’s face it: life brings ups and downs, and not everyone stays the same size they were when they got engaged. If your engagement ring fits a little too snugly these days, you’ll be in good company if you decide to wear it on a necklace. Make sure the chain is beautiful and strong; worn as a necklace, the first symbol of your commitment will always be close to your heart.

Although necklaces are the most common way of wearing engagement rings (besides wearing them as rings, that is), there’s nothing to stop you from incorporating your ring into any accessory. You may want to ask a jeweler about turning it into an earring (luckily, asymmetrical earring sets are in style) or a brooch. Think about the types of accessories you wear on a daily basis and aren’t likely to lose. Don’t be afraid to get creative!

Wear the Wedding Band Alone

Now that you’re married, you don’t technically need an engagement band anymore. If yours doesn’t hold sentimental value for you, or if you didn’t like the ring style in the first place, there’s nothing stopping you from selling your engagement ring. Just make sure you talk it over with your partner first and make the decision together–otherwise, you’re in for a rocky start to your marriage!

If you don’t want to wear flashy jewelry but you can’t bring yourself to part with your engagement ring, just keep it in a safe place at home. One advantage to keeping your engagement ring even if you’re not wearing it every day is that you can pass it on to your daughter or daughter-in-law someday as a family heirloom.

Use Your Engagement Ring as a Wedding Band

Feeling untraditional? Remember that a ring is only as meaningful as the symbolism you place on it. If you and your new spouse want to keep using your engagement band as your new wedding band, no one can tell you otherwise. This works especially well for couples where both partners have decided to wear engagement rings. (This trend includes men too; women aren’t the only ones who want to announce their commitment anymore.) Since you’re both wearing rings that symbolize your commitment anyway, there’s no hurry to run out and buy another set.

Follow Your Heart

Rings are beautiful and valuable, but their true value lies in their symbolism for your relationship. Ultimately, how you wear your rings (or don’t wear them) is up to you and your partner. If you want to try an unconventional jewelry arrangement, talk it over with your spouse until you come up with the perfect solution. As long as you both hold your marriage commitment and love in your heart, you’re doing it the right way.