How to calm your wedding day jitters

How to calm your wedding day jitters

Your wedding day is one of the happiest of your life and also one of the most nerve jangling ones. There are so many things you worry about going wrong from the ceremony to the reception to the wedding night itself. If you’re going to enjoy your special day, you need to find a way to calm your fears. The first rule is to be well-prepared for all stages of the day. Following are five of the most common wedding day fears and how to overcome them:

Stage fright: When you freeze up, it’s only because you’re extremely nervous. It’s perfectly natural to be a little nervous. Actually, this can even make you speak your vows with more feeling. Use breathing as a calming technique. Focus on smooth breathing at a medium pace. Breathe in through your nose and let it out through your mouth.

Brain Freeze: This is another side effect of nerves. If you’re worried about being so nervous that you’ll suddenly forget everything you wanted to say, slip some cue cards in your pocket with your wedding vows written on them. Just be sure to write them very neatly so you can read them easily.

Dry mouth, shaking or blushing: These are all physical signs of nervousness. If this happens to you, do your best to ignore the shaking and blushing by focusing more on your wedding vows. It may help to think about how much you love your intended. A dry mouth can be combated by drinking plenty of water before the ceremony.

Hecklers among the guests: While this is a rather common fear, it really doesn’t happen very often, if at all, at weddings. Remember that your guests are at your wedding are wishing you only the best and they’re nearly as nervous as you are. That’s why they wouldn’t dream of doing anything to ruin your wedding.

Judgmental guests: Everyone you’ve invited to your wedding care about you and your future spouse. They’re not going to be sitting there and judging anything about either of you. Instead, they’re going to be feeling the happiness of the journey in life that you’re starting together. Besides, if you’re got anyone at your wedding that’s judgmental, they shouldn’t have been invited in the first place.


Lisa is a special needs teacher and a hugger. She always makes time for everyone and lightens up everybody’s lives with her presence. When she is not chasing her students around the yard, she finds time to write about what she truly loves, and you guessed it, its people and relationships.