Bridal Showers: Who Does What

Bridal Showers: Who Does What

While the responsibility of planning a bridal shower falls on the bridesmaids, the mother of the bride, the bride herself and the groom also have specific bridal shower responsibilities. Below is our guide to everyone’s role — including guests! – so that your bridal shower goes off without a hitch!

Maid of Honor: The maid of honor usually takes the lead in planning the bridal shower. Discuss with the bride what type of shower she would like (whether it’s a brunch, tea party or cocktail gathering) and possible dates. Ask her for a guest list and gather the bridesmaids to establish the budget and begin sorting out the details and delegating responsibilities. On the day of the shower, help greet and introduce guests, manage the games, assist the bride with gift opening and pass out favors.

Bridesmaids: Work together with the maid of honor to plan the details of the shower, including the budget, location and date, menu, decorations and other fun aspects such as the games and favors. On the day of the shower, be sure to be on hand to greet guests, manage the games and help the bride open her gifts. Delegate one person to write down who gave the bride which gift so she will remember who to thank for what when writing thank-you notes.

Mother of the Bride: Traditionally, it was not proper form for the mother of the bride to host the bridal shower, as it could be seen as soliciting gifts. However, today’s rules have relaxed and the MOB will sometimes get involved in the planning. Let the maid of honor and bridesmaids take the lead but be on hand to help out with the menu, favors or RSVPs.

Bride: The bride should provide the hosts of the shower with the names and contact information (phone numbers, addresses, e-mail addresses) of all guests to be invited. Remember that every guest invited to the shower must also be invited to the wedding. Also, be respectful of your hosts’ budget and scope of the shower: An afternoon tea at your maid of honor’s home probably will not be appropriate if you’re expecting 75 of your girlfriends. Afterward, be sure to send thank-you notes to all of your guests in a timely fashion.

Guests: Bring a gift for the bride. This is often tied to a theme that should be clearly communicated in the invitation. You may also be asked to provide an extra detail such as a favorite recipe or a piece of advice for the bride. Participate in games and mingle with the other guests.

Groom: The groom may make an appearance at the end of the shower so the ladies can catch a glimpse of him. He may also be there to help the bride transport all of her gifts home.


Lisa is a special needs teacher and a hugger. She always makes time for everyone and lightens up everybody’s lives with her presence. When she is not chasing her students around the yard, she finds time to write about what she truly loves, and you guessed it, its people and relationships.